tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7842684642117669334.post1381571993379208023..comments2023-04-13T08:44:10.428-07:00Comments on This 'n That From on the Mountain: Mish mashKathrynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03272307621143522274noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7842684642117669334.post-5195948583883742342009-09-18T21:13:18.385-07:002009-09-18T21:13:18.385-07:00hopr you have a nice weekend. call mehopr you have a nice weekend. call meDavid Edwardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02690273066219097101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7842684642117669334.post-37631244146588932682009-09-18T18:16:31.917-07:002009-09-18T18:16:31.917-07:00Hi, Saw you stopped by and listened in on my world...Hi, Saw you stopped by and listened in on my world. Sorry to know the pain you are feeling. My son and his wife tried everything and then adopted. They have three precious little girls now. As much as I would have liked to have a child in the image of my son, I have to say I am totally smitten with these girls.Kathy's Klotheslinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17881966393157941515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7842684642117669334.post-25828254895232100522009-09-18T13:14:33.258-07:002009-09-18T13:14:33.258-07:00This is one of those very real things where it hur...This is one of those very real things where it hurts. I've seldom seen anything more painful than infertility being experienced by people who truly want children. My oldest friend went through this for many years. Last year, following many health problems, she had a hysterectomy. <br /><br />In some ways that definitive answer made things easier for her. For ten years, in the back of her mind, she always believed, "There is still a chance." <br /><br />As to why that happens to good people, who would be good parents? I don't know. I don't think there is a "why" necessarily. I think that sometimes our physical houses don't work in quite the way we want them to. <br /><br />Your friend clearly really hurt you, and I'm so sorry. I don't know why she failed to respond with at least an acknowledgment but I can tell you that sometimes people have trouble figuring out what to say to someone expressing a real concern. <br /><br />For the many years my friend struggled with infertility, we would talk about it, but I was always struggling with the knowledge that truly? I didn't know how it felt. Really, by the time she was trying to have a baby, my son was seven. I've known my friend since we were ten, and I tried. <br /><br />I'm just saying that whereas my first inclination is to simply say, "Right now your friend is not acting like much of a friend. It might be better to send her a request to remove you from all group mailings, and if the friendship ends, accept that." but then it did occur to me, this is such a sensitive and sore subject, maybe there is a chance that she is simply so mortified by accidentally including you on that particular mailing, she doesn't know what to say, or do to make it better? <br /><br />I do think we sometimes believe that relationships that aren't permanent are somehow less valuable because of that. Friends do grow apart, and all that. All stuff that you know. <br /><br />I did want to say, it really is okay to grieve, and be sad about the concept of "No baby." That is a loss, of at least a picture in your mind of how your life would be. See, I even feel weird stating that, and hope it's okay to say. <br /><br />I don't know what will happen for you, Kathryn. I know you are grateful for the life you have, and the love in it. There are more ways than one to have children in your life, but you know that. It doesn't take away the sting. <br /><br />I don't know why these things happen, I know wonderful people, with the strongest hearts, who didn't get the strongest bodies.Land of shimphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15671954452597068904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7842684642117669334.post-70656115797188990352009-09-17T20:30:02.239-07:002009-09-17T20:30:02.239-07:00Praying that the Lord will direct your path and gi...Praying that the Lord will direct your path and give you His peace. He knows exactly what is best for you so don't try to circumvent His plan and heap more stress in your life. <br /><br />I'll try to meet you for lunch when we come to OC in February. That would be nice.Mrs. Machttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06644129213141875138noreply@blogger.com